u/Old_Still3321

I'm not sure if it will, really, but as my kids are becoming adults, I feel like I'll be doing the following:

• Cell phones (at 21 my older kids began to take over their own cell phone payments)
  • This was inspired by a rich guy I knew who very proudly stayed on his parents' plan and was not paying
• Help with first car (they pay some of it, and after college pay insurance)
• Most of college tuition (they pay $1,000 a year)
• Weddings
• Help with first house

Beyond this I had a realization that if I want to go on vacation with my adult children, and I do, I should probably be ready to treat them. I saw this a couple years ago on a cruise: This really nice family was behind us waiting for photos. I asked this 22 yo how he liked vacationing with his parents, and he said, "dad wants to take me to Bermuda, I'm not saying no."

The dad said his only ask is that they have dinner together and have a nice photo together.

ETA: And, of course, I plan to leave them everything when I die. Don't think there'll be a whole lot, but at least a house to sell and my accounts

I'm at work. When I'm just doing nothing, my ass feels uncomfortable, and I don't feel good. But when I am deep into something, I could sit all day and feel great.

A 25 year friendship dissolved rather quickly after I called out someone for being negative all the time. His response was a garbage dump of all these things that are wrong with me, including that I was jealous of him.

Rather than reply with, "buddy, you're 35 with no wife, no kids, and still need your dad to help you out, despite having a trust fund," I thought long and hard on if his other points made any sense. I concluded he was hurt by what I said, so apologized for hurting him.

A month later I sent a message saying, 'if you're around, I'm around.'

Never heard from him, but since heard he bad mouthed me. I also learned this was a common theme since our childhood, and was the reason certain friendships never materialized. He made it as though he generously included me in his circle when he put a wall between me and other people.

And then I realized he did the most unforgivable thing: He cheated at tennis.

I was a better player than him, but never seemed to win, and then very suddenly we stopped playing after someone watching us called him out as a cheater. He said he messed up the call because he was distracted by them, and I accepted. A specialty of mine was hitting very deep and wide shots that I honestly couldn't see if they were in, and rarely missed in competition matches. Against him, I couldn't seem to keep them in the lines.

That realization made me see the kind of person he was.