u/Anonymous_mouse89

like the title says, I had the pleasure of visiting Ypsi yesterday and was able to learn of the local smeet frog. I would love to see pictures of or hear accounts of smeet frog sightings and they truly seem like fascinating and majestic animals. thanks in advance

I’ve come across so many women who have had horrific trauma and are not getting trauma treatment, but instead are told they have a “personality disorder” why do we as a society agree to this? does it not seem a little victim blamey to you?

Curious if you did how you made it work, or if you came back, what you missed and didn’t miss, if you came back what you’re doing differently this time?

this month, I decided to improve my mental and physical health. normally I would push my body to its limits and try to get results right away but this time I wanted to try something gentler. I started walking every day, around 4-5 miles, usually in the morning. I still felt the hormone crashes, the first one was the day after ovulation. I let this blow me off course and I stopped my routine, and I felt like crap. But then am amazing thing happened: I pushed through and started up walking again, all the way through my late luteal phase, and I was able to completely normally function and make decisions, socialize and even keep my diet and home clean. Sharing in hopes that this will inspire others. I kept the walk to a brisk pace, at least 3 mph and ususlly did it first thing in the morning with no music, phone, etc. just me and the world. Has anyone else tried this? I am 37 and thought for sure that I would be miserable for the next 15 years.

I moved from a coastal state to the Detroit area, and all summer people have been saying they’re going “up north”. where is this? is it a singular place? many places? why do people love it so much there? it’s not Canada right? please help.

edit: okay, this is enough answers, thank you

I got a job offer in the area and I have three cats. I’m wondering if I should accept or if it will be too hard to find a place. I’m a 37f, single. I’m not opposed to iroommates but I prefer my own place.

edit: why is this getting downvoted?

I asked my therapist if there was anything I was doing in my talks with her that could potentially alienate people, and she said being emotionally intense. idk if she meant experiencing intense emotions or expressing them, but I’m wondering if anyone could share why they might not want to be around someone with intense emotions. it’s not like I’m getting angry or crying, it’s more like I’m very analytical and precise in my words and I try to express clearly if I like you through body language, expression and words.

I am a 37 f and I don’t have any close friends right now. I don’t have a single person in my life who I speak with more regularly than once a week. i dont really see anyone at work either, just once a week on Thursdays but sometimes no one is there. I live alone. I’m newer in my city. I keep trying to make friends but after 1-2x hanging out or talking, they stop responding. I never had this problem before to the point where I can’t find anyone to hang out with at all any day of the week. I’m so anxious and depressed bc of the isolation. I don’t have the confidence to go out and be amongst crowds, etc. how do I

1. bridge the gap- I want people to stop not responding after two times meeting

and

2. rebuild my self esteem after a year and a half of this (moved from a big city to a medium city and it’s been like this ever since”)

3. when I ask people if something is wrong they usually say no but never reach out and don’t respond to requests for plans or just don’t respond at all. no one will tell me what I’ve done wrong. so how do I even figure that out?

my self esteem was so low that I started posting on Reddit, trying to ask these strangers what was wrong with ME. I was met with so many red pilled men answering that I had no value left, that I was old, ugly, worthless. my self esteem plummeted even further. I isolated myself from everyone. started drinking and and eating almost nothing, and then I started abusive relationships, which led to having pretty extreme thoughts of suicide and eventually me having to flee my home state. yall, I want to say thank you to this community for leaving that stuff behind and for speaking out. I worry for vulnerable women like me who are in a bad place, who are in a place where they are looking to fix themselves, and don’t know the ideology and what to watch out for. please keep speaking out. there are a lot of them still in online dating subs or dating subs in general. please never stop speaking out.

I just got two new rescue kittens and noticed they’re very communicate with me through eye contact, physical touch, body language and facial expression. it made me wonder how others communicate with their cats. I know some are more vocal. how do you communicate with your cats?

I know this probably sounds obvious or stupid, but I’m trying to figure it out. I keep trying to date or make friends and people just stop responding like so often it’s crazy. it’s really affecting my self esteem. im from california, a big city. when I would have a conflict with someone there I would usually just say what I don’t like or ask what’s going on or if everything is okay (if they haven’t responded to me). here when I do that I’ve had three experiences:

1. they don’t respond at all

2. they respond and say they’ve just been busy but then never try to reach out or talk again

3. they end the relationship, for example, I was fired shortly after telling the manager of a restaurant not to speak to me disrespectfully.

im not trying to be annoying but im really trying to figure out how to set up a social group. I’m not used to people waiting 2-3 days to respond, taking my number and then never following up, or talking endlessly at work but refusing to ever do anything outside of it. I’m 37 and female and I could really use a consistent friend grouo who I can speak with often, but it’s been so hard. I don’t want to insult anybody and that’s not my intention, but if anyone has an idea why I keep having these issues I would love to know. I study psychology and I’ve been wracking my brain trying to figure oit what about my behavior is repelling people. I’ve been to therapy and try to treat people nicely, I put effort into my relationships and check in often.

that was a bit of a tangent but yeah essentially what are Midwest social norms?