u/ChubbyNUgly22

23M looking for genuine long term friendships and emotionally safe people ♡

Hey am Raj from India. am pretty introverted and shy at first, but once I get comfortable I’m very emotional, open minded, caring, and deeply non-judgmental. I’m the kind of person who feels everything a little too deeply honestly 😭

I’m neurodivergent (AuDHD/ Dystychiphobic | Philophobic | Hypersensitive | Autistic | BPD | ADHD | PTSD | CPTSD | Neurodivergent | Overthinker/anxiety/overthinking brain lol), so my mind is constantly running 24/7. I tend to overanalyze messages, tone changes, energy shifts, late replies, and all that fun stuff 🥹 but despite that, I genuinely try my best to care deeply about people and create safe, honest connections.

I’ve been through a lot emotionally growing up, so I value softness, reassurance, consistency, honesty, and people who communicate openly instead of disappearing randomly. I know real friendships take time to build naturally though, and I’m not expecting instant attachment or constant texting 24/7.

I’m mostly a homebody and spend a lot of time online. I love creepy/unsolved horror videos, true crime, conspiracy theories, emotional music, meaningful quotes, watering my plants, deep late night conversations, and random internet rabbit holes 😭 I also recently downloaded Roblox even though I barely know what I’m doing yet lol.

More than anything, I just want genuine people I can slowly build a comfortable connection with. Someone to share random thoughts, memes, life struggles, dumb moments, emotional conversations, or even peaceful silence with.

If you’re also sensitive, emotionally complicated, introverted, neurodivergent, or just someone looking for a real friendship where both people genuinely care, feel free to message me 🫶

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 2 days ago

23M looking for genuine long term friendships and emotionally safe people ♡

Hey am Raj from India. am pretty introverted and shy at first, but once I get comfortable I’m very emotional, open minded, caring, and deeply non-judgmental. I’m the kind of person who feels everything a little too deeply honestly 😭

I’m neurodivergent (AuDHD/ Dystychiphobic | Philophobic | Hypersensitive | Autistic | BPD | ADHD | PTSD | CPTSD | Neurodivergent | Overthinker/anxiety/overthinking brain lol), so my mind is constantly running 24/7. I tend to overanalyze messages, tone changes, energy shifts, late replies, and all that fun stuff 🥹 but despite that, I genuinely try my best to care deeply about people and create safe, honest connections.

I’ve been through a lot emotionally growing up, so I value softness, reassurance, consistency, honesty, and people who communicate openly instead of disappearing randomly. I know real friendships take time to build naturally though, and I’m not expecting instant attachment or constant texting 24/7.

I’m mostly a homebody and spend a lot of time online. I love creepy/unsolved horror videos, true crime, conspiracy theories, emotional music, meaningful quotes, watering my plants, deep late night conversations, and random internet rabbit holes 😭 I also recently downloaded Roblox even though I barely know what I’m doing yet lol.

More than anything, I just want genuine people I can slowly build a comfortable connection with. Someone to share random thoughts, memes, life struggles, dumb moments, emotional conversations, or even peaceful silence with.

If you’re also sensitive, emotionally complicated, introverted, neurodivergent, or just someone looking for a real friendship where both people genuinely care, feel free to message me 🫶

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 2 days ago

23M (neurodivergent: autistic, ADHD, BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD) feeling isolated and hoping to make real friends.

Hey, I’m a 23M from India looking to make genuine mentally ill and long term friends here.

I’m autistic, ADHD, and also deal with BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD, social anxiety, and a very overthinking mind. I also tend to over-apologize and get stuck in my head a lot.

Because of all this, I sometimes struggle socially and feel quite isolated in my day-to-day life. Crowds and loud environments can be overwhelming for me, so I usually prefer calm, one-on-one connections.

I’ve also had a long struggle with self-esteem and how I see myself, which makes it harder for me to connect sometimes, but I’m trying to work through it.

What I’m really looking for is a kind, affectionate, long-term friendship where we can be there for each other regularly. Someone to talk to, check in on each other, share daily life with, and just feel emotionally close to.

I really value emotional warmth in friendships things like caring conversations, support, and feeling safe with someone. I miss having that kind of connection.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friend and a calm, understanding connection, feel free to reach out.

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 4 days ago

23M (neurodivergent: autistic, ADHD, BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD) feeling isolated and hoping to make real friends.

Hey, I’m a 23M from India looking to make genuine mentally ill and long term friends here.

I’m autistic, ADHD, and also deal with BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD, social anxiety, and a very overthinking mind. I also tend to over-apologize and get stuck in my head a lot.

Because of all this, I sometimes struggle socially and feel quite isolated in my day-to-day life. Crowds and loud environments can be overwhelming for me, so I usually prefer calm, one-on-one connections.

I’ve also had a long struggle with self-esteem and how I see myself, which makes it harder for me to connect sometimes, but I’m trying to work through it.

What I’m really looking for is a kind, affectionate, long-term friendship where we can be there for each other regularly. Someone to talk to, check in on each other, share daily life with, and just feel emotionally close to.

I really value emotional warmth in friendships things like caring conversations, support, and feeling safe with someone. I miss having that kind of connection.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friend and a calm, understanding connection, feel free to reach out.

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 4 days ago

23M (neurodivergent: autistic, ADHD, BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD) feeling isolated and hoping to make real friends.

Hey, I’m a 23M from India looking to make genuine mentally ill and long term friends here.

I’m autistic, ADHD, and also deal with BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD, social anxiety, and a very overthinking mind. I also tend to over-apologize and get stuck in my head a lot.

Because of all this, I sometimes struggle socially and feel quite isolated in my day-to-day life. Crowds and loud environments can be overwhelming for me, so I usually prefer calm, one-on-one connections.

I’ve also had a long struggle with self-esteem and how I see myself, which makes it harder for me to connect sometimes, but I’m trying to work through it.

What I’m really looking for is a kind, affectionate, long-term friendship where we can be there for each other regularly. Someone to talk to, check in on each other, share daily life with, and just feel emotionally close to.

I really value emotional warmth in friendships things like caring conversations, support, and feeling safe with someone. I miss having that kind of connection.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friend and a calm, understanding connection, feel free to reach out.

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 4 days ago

23 [M4F] anywhere looking for my forever person.

hi. i’m here because i’m done pretending i’m not a hopeless romantic. i am. i want real love. the soft kind. the best-friends-first, choose-each-other-on-boring-days kind. i want my person, not a distraction.

i’m not into situationships or “let’s see where this goes.” i know what i want, and it’s something serious. i want someone i can be stupid with and vulnerable with. someone who feels like home. someone i can talk to at 2 a.m. about everything and nothing and still feel understood.

about me:

hey, it’s me Raj. nice to meet you. i’m 23M from India. i’m pretty introverted and shy at first, but also very open minded, emotional, affectionate, and deeply non-judgmental. i’m the kind of person who feels everything a little too deeply.

i’m neurodivergent and struggle with autism, ADHD/AuDHD, OCD tendencies, social anxiety, hypersensitivity, overthinking, fear of abandonment, and a lot of emotional trauma. living with a brain like mine feels exhausting sometimes because it never truly rests. i overthink every message, every tone change, every late reply, every small shift in energy. i constantly fear being abandoned, replaced, forgotten, or slowly becoming unimportant to people i care about.

ever since childhood, i’ve struggled with people pleasing and the fear of being treated like an option instead of someone genuinely valued. i get attached too deeply and then spend hours convincing myself people secretly hate me, are getting tired of me, or are slowly getting bored of me.

i apologize too much. i care too much. i think too much. i feel too much.

i’ve also dealt with bullying, emotional abuse, discrimination, and years of feeling unattractive and unwanted. i’m chubby, awkward, unemployed, and honestly i often feel like a burden everywhere i go. but despite all of that, i still try really hard to be kind and emotionally available for the people i care about.

i’m mostly a homebody and spend most of my time inside my room. i enjoy creepy/unsolved horror videos, true crime, conspiracy theories, solo travel vlogs, watering my plants, emotional music, finding meaningful quotes online, and writing my feelings sometimes. i also recently downloaded roblox and i’m still figuring it out slowly lol.

i’m also a very emotional and intense person. i care deeply about people once they become important to me. maybe too deeply sometimes.

yk i don’t think people realize how badly being treated like temporary can destroy someone. i’ve spent a lot of my life feeling like people only keep me around when they need emotional support. i listen to people for hours, comfort them, stay patient with them, remember little details about them, and genuinely try my hardest to make them feel safe and understood. but a lot of the time, once they feel okay again, i slowly become less important to them.

and honestly? that kind of thing stays with you.

it made me overthink everything. every dry text. every late reply. every tiny tone change. my brain immediately starts thinking people are getting tired of me, replacing me, or preparing to leave. i know i can be clingy or emotionally intense sometimes, but the truth is i just get terrified of losing people once they matter to me.

despite everything, i’m still someone who loves deeply, stays loyal, communicates honestly, and genuinely wants soft, healthy, mutual love.

what i’m looking for is honestly simple: someone kind, emotionally mature, genuine, affectionate, and intentional. someone who wants a deep connection and isn’t afraid of emotional intimacy. i want slow love. warm love. the kind where we become each other’s safest place.

i want the person i can share everything with. the person i build dumb inside jokes with. the person who chooses me even on ordinary days.

if this resonates with you, dm me and tell me about yourself properly. don’t just send “hi” please. i’d genuinely love to know the real you.

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 4 days ago

Have you ever sat alone at night and cried so hard because you realized the people you loved the most were also the people who kept hurting you the deepest?

yk sometimes I genuinely wonder what is so wrong with me that people always end up betraying me, replacing me, forgetting me, or treating me like I was never important in the first place. I keep asking myself if maybe I’m just not enough for anyone. maybe I care too much. maybe I love too deeply. maybe people like me are only meant to be temporary in everyone else’s life.

It hurts because my intentions are always genuine. when I love someone, I love them with everything I have. I listen to them for hours, comfort them, stay patient with them, remember small things about them, worry about them constantly, and try my hardest to make them feel safe, understood, and loved. But somehow, no matter how much kindness I give, I always end up receiving pain in return.

And the worst part is people usually only come to me when they need emotional support. They vent to me, trauma dump on me, cry to me, use me as their safe place, use me when they’re lonely, bored, or broken… but once they start feeling better, I slowly become unimportant to them. Like I was just temporary comfort. just someone to fill silence. just timepass. never someone they truly wanted to keep close forever.

I overthink everything. Every late reply, every dry text, every small change in tone or behavior. My mind panics for hours because I’m constantly scared people will leave me, replace me, get bored of me, or slowly stop caring about me. I get attached way too deeply, and I don’t know how to stop loving people so intensely once they become important to me.

Maybe it comes from my childhood. I spent my whole life people pleasing because I never really felt properly loved by my own parents. I always felt like I had to earn love somehow. beg for affection. beg to feel wanted. So now I keep searching for that same love in other people, hoping someone will finally choose me genuinely and stay.

Being autistic, ADHD, socially anxious, neurodivergent, hypersensitive, traumatized, and emotionally overwhelmed makes me feel disconnected from people all the time. I feel misunderstood almost everywhere I go. I apologize too much. I care too much. I think too much. I feel too much.

Sometimes I honestly feel like a burden to everyone around me. Like no matter how much love, loyalty, honesty, and care I give, I’ll never truly be enough for anyone to stay wholeheartedly.

I’m clingy and possessive too because I get terrified of losing people once they become important to me. I hate feeling replaceable. I hate feeling like I’m just an option while everyone else is someone’s priority.

And honestly, I don’t even like sugarcoating things anymore. I would rather be hurt by the truth than comforted with lies. But it feels like genuine people always end up getting hurt the most.

Some nights I just sit alone wondering why it’s so easy for people to hurt someone who only ever wanted to love them sincerely.

Because all I ever wanted was to feel important to someone the same way they became important to me.

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 5 days ago

23M India Looking for a calm, cozy sleep call 🌙

Hey everyone

I’m Raj, 23 from India. I’m just looking for something simple tonight a soft voice, a calm presence, and maybe someone to fall asleep on call with.

I’m a pretty quiet and gentle person. I like slow conversations, late-night thoughts, and that peaceful feeling when you don’t have to try too hard to be interesting just being there is enough.

We can talk a little, or just stay silent and listen to each other breathe… whatever feels natural. No pressure, no expectations just comfort.

If you have a soothing voice, or you’re someone who also just wants a calm connection tonight, I’d really love that.

Bonus if you’re kind, patient, and a little sleepy too ☁️

Feel free to DM me I’ll be around 🌙

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 6 days ago

23M (neurodivergent: autistic, ADHD, BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD) feeling isolated and hoping to make real friends.

Hey, I’m a 23M from India looking to make genuine mentally ill and long term friends here.

I’m autistic, ADHD, and also deal with BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD, social anxiety, and a very overthinking mind. I also tend to over-apologize and get stuck in my head a lot.

Because of all this, I sometimes struggle socially and feel quite isolated in my day-to-day life. Crowds and loud environments can be overwhelming for me, so I usually prefer calm, one-on-one connections.

I’ve also had a long struggle with self-esteem and how I see myself, which makes it harder for me to connect sometimes, but I’m trying to work through it.

What I’m really looking for is a kind, affectionate, long-term friendship where we can be there for each other regularly. Someone to talk to, check in on each other, share daily life with, and just feel emotionally close to.

I really value emotional warmth in friendships things like caring conversations, support, and feeling safe with someone. I miss having that kind of connection.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friend and a calm, understanding connection, feel free to reach out.

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 6 days ago

23M Introvert (neurodivergent: autistic, ADHD, BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD) feeling isolated and hoping to make real friends.

Hey, I’m a 23M from India looking to make genuine mentally ill and long term friends here.

I’m autistic, ADHD, and also deal with BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD, social anxiety, and a very overthinking mind. I also tend to over-apologize and get stuck in my head a lot.

Because of all this, I sometimes struggle socially and feel quite isolated in my day-to-day life. Crowds and loud environments can be overwhelming for me, so I usually prefer calm, one-on-one connections.

I’ve also had a long struggle with self-esteem and how I see myself, which makes it harder for me to connect sometimes, but I’m trying to work through it.

What I’m really looking for is a kind, affectionate, long-term friendship where we can be there for each other regularly. Someone to talk to, check in on each other, share daily life with, and just feel emotionally close to.

I really value emotional warmth in friendships things like caring conversations, support, and feeling safe with someone. I miss having that kind of connection.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friend and a calm, understanding connection, feel free to reach out.

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 6 days ago

23M (neurodivergent: autistic, ADHD, BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD) feeling isolated and hoping to make real friends.

Hey, I’m a 23M from India looking to make genuine mentally ill and long term friends here.

I’m autistic, ADHD, and also deal with BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD, social anxiety, and a very overthinking mind. I also tend to over-apologize and get stuck in my head a lot.

Because of all this, I sometimes struggle socially and feel quite isolated in my day-to-day life. Crowds and loud environments can be overwhelming for me, so I usually prefer calm, one-on-one connections.

I’ve also had a long struggle with self-esteem and how I see myself, which makes it harder for me to connect sometimes, but I’m trying to work through it.

What I’m really looking for is a kind, affectionate, long-term friendship where we can be there for each other regularly. Someone to talk to, check in on each other, share daily life with, and just feel emotionally close to.

I really value emotional warmth in friendships things like caring conversations, support, and feeling safe with someone. I miss having that kind of connection.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friend and a calm, understanding connection, feel free to reach out.

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 6 days ago

23M (neurodivergent: autistic, ADHD, BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD) feeling isolated and hoping to make real friends.

Hey, I’m a 23M from India looking to make genuine mentally ill and long term friends here.

I’m autistic, ADHD, and also deal with BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD, social anxiety, and a very overthinking mind. I also tend to over-apologize and get stuck in my head a lot.

Because of all this, I sometimes struggle socially and feel quite isolated in my day-to-day life. Crowds and loud environments can be overwhelming for me, so I usually prefer calm, one-on-one connections.

I’ve also had a long struggle with self-esteem and how I see myself, which makes it harder for me to connect sometimes, but I’m trying to work through it.

What I’m really looking for is a kind, affectionate, long-term friendship where we can be there for each other regularly. Someone to talk to, check in on each other, share daily life with, and just feel emotionally close to.

I really value emotional warmth in friendships things like caring conversations, support, and feeling safe with someone. I miss having that kind of connection.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friend and a calm, understanding connection, feel free to reach out.

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 6 days ago

23M (neurodivergent: autistic, ADHD, BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD) feeling isolated and hoping to make real friends.

Hey, I’m a 23M from India looking to make genuine mentally ill and long term friends here.

I’m autistic, ADHD, and also deal with BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD, social anxiety, and a very overthinking mind. I also tend to over-apologize and get stuck in my head a lot.

Because of all this, I sometimes struggle socially and feel quite isolated in my day-to-day life. Crowds and loud environments can be overwhelming for me, so I usually prefer calm, one-on-one connections.

I’ve also had a long struggle with self-esteem and how I see myself, which makes it harder for me to connect sometimes, but I’m trying to work through it.

What I’m really looking for is a kind, affectionate, long-term friendship where we can be there for each other regularly. Someone to talk to, check in on each other, share daily life with, and just feel emotionally close to.

I really value emotional warmth in friendships things like caring conversations, support, and feeling safe with someone. I miss having that kind of connection.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friend and a calm, understanding connection, feel free to reach out.

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 6 days ago
▲ 3 r/ugly

being ugly and unattractive genuinely destroyed my self esteem over time

I know looks aren’t everything but people treat me differently when am ugly and unattractive.I’ve spent years feeling invisible, unwanted, laughed at, and less worthy because of how I look. Being chubby, awkward, socially anxious, and already struggling mentally made everything worse. Sometimes I genuinely feel like people lose interest in me before even knowing who I am cuz after enough rejection, bullying, racism, and feeling undesirable it becomes hard not to hate yourself.

I already struggle with abandonment fears, overthinking, depression, and trauma, so my appearance just became another reason my brain uses to convince me I’m not enough and also i always have fear from my childhood of people pleasing and what if people treating me like their option, and use me for their healing and trauma dumping and venting only and also treating me like a second choice and also am just like their source of boredom, timepass or entertainment and someone who can't be a good friend as a priority to them.

I wish people understood how deeply appearance related insecurity can affect someone emotionally over time.

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 11 days ago

I feel emotionally exhausted from fighting my own mind every day

there are nights where i genuinely sit alone and wonder what happened to me and i don’t remember the last time I truly felt okay cuz i wake up tired. Not just physically tired, but mentally and emotionally exhausted in a way sleep never fixes. And no matter how hard I try to distract myself, laugh, game, scroll, talk to people, or stay positive the sadness always comes back like it lives inside me permanently and sometimes i feel so emotionally overwhelmed that even replying to people, existing, or getting out of bed feels heavy always cuz my mind never stays quiet.

I overthink every message, every tone change, every late reply. I constantly fear being abandoned, replaced, forgotten, or slowly becoming unimportant to people I care abou and also i always have fear from my childhood of people pleasing and what if people treating me like their option, and use me for their healing and trauma dumping and venting only and also treating me like a second choice and also am just like their source of boredom, timepass or entertainment and someone who can't be a good friend as a priority to them cuz I get attached too deeply and then spend hours convincing myself everyone secretly hates me or is getting tired or get bored of me and the worst part is I know it’s exhausting cuz being autistic, ADHD, traumatized, hypersensitive, socially anxious, and emotionally unstable feels like living with a brain that never lets me rest. I apologize too much. I care too much. I think too much. I feel everything too deeply.

I spent most of my life trying so hard to be lovable, understandable, wanted, enough.

But after years of racism, bullying, rejection, abuse, being laughed at for my looks, my body, my personality, and who I am as a person, I slowly started believing maybe I really am hard to love.

Sometimes I genuinely feel like a burden everywhere I go cuz am just an unemployed son. A disappointing person. A forgettable friend. Someone people only tolerate until they find someone better and honestly that feeling destroys me quietly every day. There are moments where I want to disappear from everyone completely because I feel like nobody would truly miss me for long anyway but at the same time I still keep hoping someone someday will understand me gently instead of treating me like am too much. I just want to feel safe with someone. I just want one place, one person, one moment where my heart doesn’t feel like it has to beg to be loved. Sometimes i wish someone could see how hard am trying to survive silently every single day.

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 11 days ago

Social anxiety makes me feel unlikeable before people even know me

I overthink every social interaction to the point it becomes painful. I worry I sound boring, awkward, annoying, clingy, weird, or embarrassing. Sometimes I type messages and delete them over and over because am scared people will judge me and if someone replies dryly or takes longer than usual, my brain immediately assumes they secretly dislike me and also i always have fear from my childhood of people pleasing and what if people treating me like their option, and use me for their healing and trauma dumping and venting only and also treating me like a second choice and also am just like their source of boredom, timepass or entertainment and someone who can't be a good friend as a priority to them. I genuinely don’t know how to feel comfortable around people anymore. Being socially anxious while also dealing with trauma, ADHD, autism, abandonment fears, and depression feels emotionally draining and am tired of feeling invisible and disconnected from everyone. i just want to feel normal around people for once.

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 11 days ago
▲ 56 r/CPTSD

I think trauma changed the way my brain experiences love and safety

I feel like trauma made me emotionally hyperaware of abandonment, rejection, and emotional distance even when someone cares about me, I still feel terrified they will leave eventually and also i always have fear from my childhood of people pleasing and what if people treating me like their option, and use me for their healing and trauma dumping and venting only and also treating me like a second choice and also am just like their source of boredom, timepass or entertainment and someone who can't be a good friend as a priority to them.

I spent so much of my life feeling emotionally unsafe that now my brain constantly scans for signs people are getting tired of me. i overexplain myself. I apologize constantly. I people-please. I become scared of upsetting people because I fear losing them and honestly it’s exhausting living in survival mode emotionally all the time. Sometimes I wish I knew what it felt like to feel truly emotionally safe with someone because most days I just feel scared, lonely, and mentally exhausted.

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u/ChubbyNUgly22 — 11 days ago