u/justmypersonalthing

Anytime you go to a psychiatrist that you're deprsssed? The first thing they do is to put you on medications and frame it as your fault. So you’re depressed because you’re broke and can’t afford a house and work more than 40 hours a week? Oh, that’s your problem. Here, I’m prescribing you: take Zoloft, and also im putting you to a psychologist to gaslight you into to thinking its your fault do CBT, DBT. Just pretend everything is okay pull up your fucking bootstraps think positive thoughts practice gratitude go to the gym more. I’m sure a lot of you here know what I’m talking about. Psychiatrists especially the ones from public government like nhs they wil rarely talk about how socioeconomic factors, money, and poverty are connected to mental health. Many won’t even let you talk about how it affects your mental health and will shut you up for talking about stressing about bills and rent, and some will even have the audacity to tell you, “Money isn’t everything,” “Money won’t make you happy,” "Money will not fix your problems"while they drive a Porsche Sports Car to their offices. I had a few psychiatrists like that, and many of them came from privileged backgrounds themselves and has never worked a day in their lives know what its like to be poor. The whole mental health system is just abusive because it doesn’t address that most of our depression and anxiety is not an isolated case, but rather a response to how the world is: late stage capitaliam low-wage jobs, the rich get richer while the poor get poorer, while many of us Americans couldn’t afford a house anytime soon. I guarantee you no mental health professionals will allow you to talk about this. Some will even shut you up and laugh at you for being weak. I have. The best medication for my depression after years of antidepressants, at least for me personally, was when I stopped worrying about bills, was able to pay rent, and had financial stability and a stable income.

Anytime you go to a mental health professional be it a psychiatrist psychologist or a therapist that you're deprsssed? The first thing they do is to put you on medications and frame it as your fault. So you’re depressed because you’re broke and can’t afford a house and work more than 40 hours a week? Oh, that’s your problem. Here, I’m prescribing you: take Zoloft, CBT, DBT. Just pretend everything is okay pull up your fucking bootstraps think positive thoughts practice gratitude go to the gym more. I’m sure a lot of you here know what I’m talking about. Mental health professionals rarely talk about how socioeconomic factors, money, and poverty are connected to mental health. Many won’t even let you talk about how it affects your mental health and will shut you up for talking about stressing about bills and rent, and some will even have the audacity to tell you, “Money isn’t everything,” “Money won’t make you happy,” while they drive a Porsche A audi and once even seen a psychiatrist who said that money wont make me happy drove a ferrari to their offices. I had a few therapists like that, and many of them came from privileged backgrounds themselves. The whole mental health system is just abusive because it doesn’t address that most of our depression and anxiety is not an isolated case, but rather a response to how the world is: late stage capitaliam low-wage jobs, the rich get richer while the poor get poorer, while many of us Americans couldn’t afford a house anytime soon. I guarantee you no mental health professionals will allow you to talk about this. Some will even shut you up and laugh at you for being weak. I have. The best form of therapy, at least for me personally, was when I stopped worrying about bills, was able to pay rent, and had financial stability and a stable income.

I work as a social worker at a legal firm, and my work basically revolves around understanding clients and communicating with lawyers. I can confidently say some of the most selfish individuals I know are parents. They expect you to drop everything to attend to their needs at night. I once got a client who was a parent. She contacted me at 2 a.m. to come down to her house because she is a mother. Like, what? I also have many parents who are not interested in their kids' lives and would talk down to me because I do not have kids. They expect you to understand why they behave that way, letting their kids scream in public, like, "It takes a village to raise a child. You know how hard pregnancy is?" Many of them use being a "parent" as justification for doing bad things. I have even witnessed this personally in court. A father was saying he had a screaming kid in a restaurant, and his son actually beat someone up. All he said was, "That's just his personality." And I am sure many of you know this too. Some of the most inconsiderate, selfish individuals are parents, not childfree people. In fact, I would even say this: childfree people are some of the most emotionally mature, empathetic, and understanding people I have ever met in my work.

It doesn't matter if it's Gen Z, Millennials, Gen X, or even Boomers people who are parents especially those with 2 and more. Whenever a childfree person tell them you don't want kids, they get so triggered, so concerned, and look down on you. Many, especially the older generations, mainly Boomers, feel they are superior to you as a person. Especially in a professional setting, many parent coworkers throw their workload onto childfree people. They expect you to cover for their responsibilities because they have kids, as if your time off and leave don't mean anything. For example, last year I applied for leave two months in advance because I was going to Korea with my girlfriend, and my boss had to cancel my leave last minute because my senior needed to take care of his son. Many people also judge you like you've committed a crime, when in reality, most parents I've noticed are miserable themselves. Some of the most positive people I've known in real life, from friends, family, and colleagues, are childfree.In my personal opinion, many parents want you to be miserable too. Misery loves company.

Edit this comment section perfectly proves my point misery loves company

I don't know how to explain this, but I say for myself, I used to be a happy-go-lucky kind of person before the pandemic. I was always full of life, making friends, and having hopes about the future. Although nothing is perfect, I still have problems. Before the pandemic, there was like a bit of an upbeatness to life, like nothing I could worry too much about. But ever since the start of the pandemic, I've turned to a completely different person. I'm no longer optimistic about the future i no longer have the will to meet new people and go home after work, and I'm becoming more easily pessimistic about people and more pessimistic myself too. This is something I noticed a lot of people said too, and how people are before and after the pandemic, even the most mentally strong people I know, has become worse after the pandemic. The most positive people have become completely different from how they used to be, and how different things are now: the quality of everything has dropped, everything is becoming more expensive cost of living while salary stay the same it has for decades and not able to afford a house in 2026 no matter how long you work while the rich get richer, and people are meaner and ruder literally people are ruder lack of manners from customer service to public spaces(playing music on speakerphone without headphones) angry drivers(cut you without signalling and point middle finger at you) road rage no social manners anymore and everyone just focuses on capitalism and making money and every year feels repetitive. There are no more late-night 24/7 things anymore and not to mention a lot of older gen z like myself because of the pandemic it stole years away im 24 now but i stillfeel im 18 and even my millennial sister feel the same shes 30 now but she still feels 25 those years can'tbe brought back. Does anyone relate to this too? You used to be a happier person before covid/pandemic, and now it seems like you are a different person. Sometimes I look at the photos pre-covid, 2018-2019 and can't believe im the same person as the one in the photograph, and miss how good times were back then. Now it feels like we are in a different world/planet, like 10 years, the shift from 2019 to 2020 its almost like when thanos snapped his finger in avengers infinity war and we just shifted like 10 years into the future both mentally and physically, in just 1 year after the pandemic. I don't know if I make sense.Even my gen x mum, in her early 60s, who has been through several and several disasters, said the same thing: she has never felt anything like this. Ever since covid, it has felt like the world has become a darker place, and nothing like she experienced, and the people who have been with her who experienced several major and other disasters didn't change until covid. She felt like the closest people to her have changed and feel like there is something with the vibes. Regardless from which country or part of the world you come from not just the US im talking about do you guys also relate to this? You do not feel the same also after 2020 like whatever holidays you celebrate in your culture/country like it dosent hit like even though its the same people friends family like something feels off like it was better before covid 2020? like your life was so much better pre covid like something changed in your brain and you are no longer the same person as you were before 2020 anyone feels this way too like you feel disconnected from life after 2020?

I don't know how to explain this, but I say for myself, I used to be a happy-go-lucky kind of person before the pandemic. I was always full of life, making friends, and having hopes about the future. Although nothing is perfect, I still have problems. Before the pandemic, there was like a bit of an upbeatness to life, like nothing I could worry too much about. But ever since the start of the pandemic, I've turned to a completely different person. I'm no longer optimistic about the future i no longer have the will to meet new people and go home after work, and I'm becoming more easily pessimistic about people and more pessimistic myself too. This is something I noticed a lot of people said too, and how people are before and after the pandemic, even the most mentally strong people I know, has become worse after the pandemic. The most positive people have become completely different from how they used to be, and how different things are now: the quality of everything has dropped, everything is becoming more expensive cost of living while salary stay the same it has for decades and not able to afford a house in 2026 no matter how long you work while the rich get richer, and people are meaner and ruder literally people are ruder lack of manners from customer service to public spaces(playing music on speakerphone without headphones) angry drivers(cut you without signalling and point middle finger at you) road rage no social manners anymore and everyone just focuses on capitalism and making money and every year feels repetitive. There are no more late-night 24/7 things anymore and not to mention a lot of older gen z like myself because of the pandemic it stole years away im 24 now but i stillfeel im 18 and even my millennial sister feel the same shes 30 now but she still feels 25 those years can'tbe brought back. Does anyone relate to this too? You used to be a happier person before covid/pandemic, and now it seems like you are a different person. Sometimes I look at the photos pre-covid, 2018-2019 and can't believe im the same person as the one in the photograph, and miss how good times were back then. Now it feels like we are in a different world/planet, like 10 years, the shift from 2019 to 2020 its almost like when thanos snapped his finger in avengers infinity war and we just shifted like 10 years into the future both mentally and physically, in just 1 year after the pandemic. I don't know if I make sense.Even my gen x mum, in her early 60s, who has been through several and several disasters, said the same thing: she has never felt anything like this. Ever since covid, it has felt like the world has become a darker place, and nothing like she experienced, and the people who have been with her who experienced several major and other disasters didn't change until covid. She felt like the closest people to her have changed and feel like there is something with the vibes. Regardless from which country or part of the world you come from not just the US do you guys also relate to this? You do not feel the same also after 2020 like whatever holidays you celebrate in your culture/country like it dosent hit like even though its the same people friends family like something feels off like it was better before covid 2020? like your life was so much better pre covid like something changed in your brain and you are no longer the same person as you were before 2020 anyone feels this way too like you feel disconnected from life after 2020?

What do you do is it genetics or something you do lifestyle eg