u/TheShadowSong

Is being sensitive to emotional atmosphere and seeking emotional validation and support or even uplift and inclusion, low Fe or high Fe when you're aware of your emotions but struggle with controlling them on your own without positive feedback?

When someone can be very emotionally self aware but struggles to use their emotions in a positive way and its expression which is why they need someone to help them uplift them or express them.

Or is this more about vital and mental than low and high dimensionality?

You may argue that Fe Creative is conscious and confident in its expression and influence. They're also well aware of it.

Fe Suggestive struggles with it but still values it but it's unconscious aka vital instead of mental. This would mean that ILI is more self aware of it while struggling with it just like LII is with their Se but not Fe.

Does anyone else feel like dating as an adult has absolutely no magic nor emotion. It always feels like some kind of formal contract.

I still remember early high school that was very magical with autumn season and emo music which seemed very novel and everything was romantic. The idea of dating was very novel and magical. Mix of innocence and fantasy that was yet to be seen.

Dating as an adult has absolutely no amount of this.

Does anyone often think how when you were a kid or teenager everything felt so mysterious or undiscovered.

Everything gave you this dopamine rush of what else could be out there and everything kind of felt magical and stimulating.

Like the first time going to high school and entering a big town or city alone for the first time or seeing the globe for the first time and you don't know what anything is in the world but now everything feels super familiar and colorless when you're in your 20s or above.

Dating is fun nor exciting, traveling seems like you're already connected to everything and know what is behind that hill and so on.

Sometimes you get this shirt burst of novelty but it soon fades away.

I've always had OCD keep telling me that I'm evil person if I drink coffee or alcohol, smoke cigarettes or weed, date, get piercing or tattoo.

This made me quite avoidant in life and I've tried exposure and sitting with thoughts but belief of being evil person just doesn't go away.

I even feel guilty about driving and working because OCD is telling me that I'm ruining my purity by being adult and that I'm in evil competitive field and always hurting other people.

I would like to enjoy life like other people but I can't stop feeling like a serial killer if I drink coffee.

I can tell my self that this is OCD and that I should ignore it but I feel it that it's true in my gut and I can't unconsciously ignore it.

Do any of you Se Suggestive types actually get along and find Se Basea types appealing and attractive or likable?

I always tried to be the best son and responsible when I was young while most of society expects kids to be immature and irresponsible at that age. I always told myself that I will experiment when I'm older, more prepared and deserve it more but now, I just constantly get punished and insulted for experimenting and failing in life due to my lack of experience in life.

I always avoided drugs and dating in order to not hurt myself nor others but society seems to be extremely harsh when adults experiment and try to make up for lost time while they were trying to be responsible while giving a jail out of free card to teenagers.

I just kind of feel like walking the state of limbo with a ton of wasted potential in life. Turned down so many opportunities in life and that includes high paying jobs and dating despite being asked out by multiple girls. I focused on helping my family on the farm instead. Now I just have no experience in life and everyone sells at me that I should've been settled down while having no experience in life. I'm 26 and at complete loss in life.

I've noticed that many people don't correlate with traditional progression from extremely immature to extremely mature.

Many people are very mature for their age at 15 and society doesn't reward them for it and it seems that they are learning to become more impulsive and try to make up for lost time and become impulsive and more immature at 25 due to trauma or neurodivergence.

Am I missing something?

What were the tricks that worked for you the most in order to kill anxiety or a panic attack when you constantly have high bursts of anxiety and paranoia?

I'm trying to cut high highs and low lows in my behavior and mind but I'm not really sure what to do.

My mind often goes into catastrophizing, causing guilt and anxiety that just doesn't go away. I've tried appreciating small things, exposure by ignoring them and meditation but panic and anxiety are always there.

I've noticed that exhausting yourself or coming from doing something very hard may give you sense of appreciation and relief but that's not always an option.

I know that your view is often very relative to your momentary mood this is why sometimes you see same thing in positive or negative light.

Does low dimensional Ne or low dimensional Se make you likely to be avoidant, stuck in inertia and avoidant of new experiences?

You could argue that low Se will make you less likely to take initiative and pursue physical choices in life while others argue that this is tied to The instead of Se.

Some would argue that low Ne will make someone less likely to pursue new possibilities in life because they fear negative potential.

I grew up in a very rural and Slavic village. Everyone was forced to go to Sunday school for years and all catholic rituals.

Our priest was later arrested for being a pedophile and beating kids with a stick.

My family is more culturally catholic than by belief but that never stopped them from a lot of guilt tripping.

I never really believed in god but kind of went along with it due to culture here. I'm 26 now and I'm a hard determinist, ethical emotivist and atheist.

Weird thing is that I still experience a lot of guilt through an internalized voice of people around me.

I never allowed myself to really experience any life due to this. I always try to defend freedom of people and subjectivism mixed with individuality since I believe that morality is relative and that we have no free will.

I was asked out by multiple girls in high school and college since I was in emo band but I always had this internal guilt that I'm not allowed to date, drink, smoke nor anything irresponsible while most of my peers were very impulsive at age of 15. I always told myself that I will figure it out later when I'm more mature.

I kind of wasted all my teens and 20s for religious morality that I didn't even buy. I just had a lot of guilt and shame about potentially sinning.

Most of my ex friends are catholic neo nazis that you can't really talk to about ethical relativism and empathy.

I often see people talk about how distractions, media and video games are problematic today because they offer you short term dopamine and this makes you unproductive but if you'd be bored, you'd go out and be productive. I don't think that this is the case.

I don't use any media other than Spotify for music and Reddit for this subreddit or SMS and MMS in order to reach people, college and work for when I have to. I don't feel like my attention span nor productivity are any better.

I just keep taking random walks or I rock in chair back and forth while staring and the wall thinking. I don't really do anything productive but waste even more time by doing nothing compared to when I used media and used to play video games.

I did this challenge once before and before it was mainstream, back in high school and also didn't find myself to be productive at all. I haven't had a friend since high school which is 8 years later. I don't date nor socialize at all.

I think momentum, motivation, sense of direction and purpose are much bigger factors in life than distractions.

Do you guys think that Ti and Fe valuing person can be highly individualistic in a sense that they refuse to look at a group through "aristocratic" dichotomy or "group" identity?

Focusing on person's individual beliefs as if they're detached from group and its association. Seeing their internal potential (if they were in different environment) instead of environmental mistakes that were forced onto them due to materialistic cause and effect.

Seeing queen and hobo as equal human being outside of social hierarchy once manmade social rankings are stripped of their abstract association and connection.

I type as LII and ELVF but I'm not sure which one of them is wrong. I'm aware that they're 2 different systems but they definitely don't correlate well. I can't figure out which is wrong.

I constantly see that OCD is ego dystonic but is it possible to have ego syntonic with anxiety instead of ego dystonic obsessions?

Roasted maple necks just feel so much smoother and look better.

Which server do you think is the most promising server as of now? No cash shop and reliability or consistency? Where will you guys stay?

do you think that aristocratic types like betas and deltas believe in objective morality and collectivism or is this tied to something else.