u/Different_Archer8879

I am proud to announce that I, a 33 year old single male is moving to San Leandro! I will be paying around $1900 for a small studio, but it's so worth it. I put the deposit down this July!

I am so excited for this new chapter in my life. I'll be transferring my job to SFO as a wheelchair agent. And boy oh boy am I excited for friendly and kind people. I sure hope people are as kind as in Kansas.

I love San Francisco! Can't wait to date a beautiful woman and take her to see a beautiful sunrise.

Wonderful Oakland too. :) :) :) 😀 yipeee!

It might be a stupid question because we all know homeless people are welcome in almost all of California, but are there certain areas where you can't be homeless? Say I ended up homeless in California, would I get in trouble with the law if I slept in a very rich and nice area of Orange County for example? Or in a safe area?

Where is it legal to be homeless in California? Bad areas only? Has anyone found homeless people sleeping in their neighborhoods in super rich and safe areas?

Or is it overall a crime to be homeless in nice areas of California?

Im asking because say I get promoted to work in California, I would be making $60 an hour vs the $12 I am making now since I would be a manager and I am not turning it down. I have terrible credit am neither liked or loved. I am seen as trash by many people sadly.

It might be a stupid question because we all know homeless people are welcome in almost all of California, but are there certain areas where you can't be homeless? Say I ended up homeless in California, would I get in trouble with the law if I slept in a very rich and nice area of Orange County for example? Or in a safe area?

Where is it legal to be homeless in California? Bad areas only? Has anyone found homeless people sleeping in their neighborhoods in super rich and safe areas?

Or is it overall a crime to be homeless in nice areas of California?

Dont you hate flashing yellow arrows? I do, I hate them so much. And I got honked at for not going into oncoming traffic. And where i live isnt really normal tbh.

Miami though, i love driving there. Their drivers are amazingly polite and aren't mean and aggressive. The people in SoFl in general are so much nicer. Here where I live, people honk and sometimes go around you. Then sometimes they get out of their cars and shout and scream.

Phoenix too is another less ragey city as well as San Francisco.

I bet people don't honk their horns so much in Scottsdale or in Phoenix Valley in general. I may be wrong, but horn honking and road rage isnt common.

I really do think the Phoenix area has good drivers who rarely use the horn.

I think this is something I love about Phoenix, the drivers and how they dont actively try to run you over.

So I am getting ready to pay back a bank I overdrafted 3 years ago. I am not eligible for a checking account at any bank because I have a horrid ChexSystems. However, this bank i think uses EWS, and I've never requested a report from them. Not sure what is reported on it or if anything ever was reported.

So this bank tells me the account will reopen. I got a call from a banker I spoke with asking when I will come in this week and said she will have to open a new account and that the old account will not reopen and told me I am eligible once I pay them back.

I am worried something may be on my EWS and that I am getting tricked so I can pay back the overdraft which is a lot of money.

Just to add, they so have 2nd chance accounts, so maybe she was referring to that?

I also am finally getting back on my feet after years of depression, job terminations, instability, and losing all of my friends to where I am someone with no friends now. I actually have only 1 friend and that is it. I hit rock bottom and am finally starting to get out of that rut. I am now learning money management and am tracking my spending and being careful what I spend.

Just wondering what everyone's controversial opinion is. Mine is some workplaces were so bad. I left Arizona and I don't think i have any desire to return. But I remember once I was fired only after 2 weeks on the job, and was always in trouble for petty things. And one internship had concerns about me walking around too much. Idk, but many coworkers I worked with or talked with all seemed so rude for no reason. One in particular used to raise her voice at me for asking questions. And I remember another one was angry and seemed mad for no reason.

I used to work in the social work field for context. Maybe it was that field? And then I was written up for ditching an internship when there was a misunderstanding of when it started and they dealt with it with a really rude attitude. The mean girls culture felt so common too. And I was also once written up for texting my supervisor instead of writing it in an email.

And one time I asked someone at an agency where my interview was and the lady was just rude and nasty towards me, saying, "its your interview, you should know."

I left and I have PTSD from these experiences and I find myself having panic attacks sometimes.

People were just so mean in Phoenix and in Tucson. And then I wont forget when some employees had concerns of me wandering around when I didn't know what to do and had a horrible supervisors.

Just want to hear from others if this is normal for Arizona. Again, was in the social work field too.

Just wondering what everyone's controversial opinion is. Mine is some workplaces were so bad. I left Arizona and I don't think i have any desire to return. But I remember once I was fired only after 2 weeks on the job, and was always in trouble for petty things. And one internship had concerns about me walking around too much. Idk, but many coworkers I worked with or talked with all seemed so rude for no reason. One in particular used to raise her voice at me for asking questions. And I remember another one was angry and seemed mad for no reason.

I used to work in the social work field for context. Maybe it was that field? And then I was written up for ditching an internship when there was a misunderstanding of when it started and they dealt with it with a really rude attitude. The mean girls culture felt so common too. And I was also once written up for texting my supervisor instead of writing it in an email.

And one time I asked someone at an agency where my interview was and the lady was just rude and nasty towards me, saying, "its your interview, you should know."

I left and I have PTSD from these experiences and I find myself having panic attacks sometimes.

People were just so mean in Phoenix and in Tucson. And then I wont forget when some employees had concerns of me wandering around when I didn't know what to do and had a horrible supervisors.

Just want to hear from others if this is normal for Arizona. Again, was in the social work field too.

How is Denver like compared to Phoenix? How does it compare in terms of kindness, friendliness, vibes overall, and culture?

Are people nicer in Denver and friendlier? Those who lived in both, where did you make the most friends and know most of your neighbors?

Is LAX insanely overcrowded or is it relaxed like the Lubbock Airport or Denver Airport?

Is it comparable to Sky Harbor Airport where crowds aren't a thing?

How crowded and bad is LAX? Or how good is it? Do you hear a symphony of coughs and sneezes, like heavy sneezes that sound germy and wet and loud sick coughs?

Tell me about LAX and how it compares to SFO, PHX, and DEN.

Phoenix is crossed off my list. It is not a good fit for me. So with this said, if later on I decide to relocate, it will be the SF Bay Area.

One thing I am concerned about is the VHCOL. I get it, its insanely expensive, but look at how many people live there. Yet I keep hearing how people are migrating out of there. If I decide to move to SF Bay Area, I do not want to be one of those people who migrates out due the VHCOL.

My career would be working at the SFO Airport with most likely United Airlines. My plan would be to transfer my current job as a wheelchair agent to SFO. This wont happen right now. I am planning for a year from now. And maybe if things change in a year, I may not even end up moving there.

Many people work at SFO. My assumption is nobody lives alone. If I had roommates, would I be able to have my own bathroom for $1200 a month in a very expensive, nice, and safe area like Dublin or Walnut Creek? I do not want to live in Oakland or in a bad area where smash and grabs are common. I want to live in an area where police patrol all the time and where i am safe walking outside late at night.

Where do airport workers live in the Bay Area?

For my budget for a room, would I get my own bathroom? Would i only have 1 or 2 roommates?

Look, I get it, it's expensive, but very worth it.

Also, my credit should be fixed by next year. Once it is and my debt is paid off, I may decide to transfer. I also will not go unless I'm working at SFO. If I can't have that, I'm not going. I am not interested in working at OAK or SJC. I want to work at a huge major hub airport with trams and lots of elevators and escalators, not some small boring airport where there are not many flights.

So if I go to the Bay Area, it'd be with a job lined up at SFO. That or i just wont go.

Compare the vibes and culture of the Phoenix metro area to the San Francisco Bay Area. Which is friendlier or more unfriendly?

Debating between these two cities for attending a job fair or transferring my current job. I just need a new start.

How does Phoenix, Chandler, Mesa, Scottsdale, Gilbert, Queen Creek, etc compare to San Francisco, Oakland, San Jose, Walnut Creek, Dublin, etc?

Overall comparing both metro areas, which is the friendlier one?

Im realizing so far that Phoenix seems like one of the least friendliest metro areas in the country. I want to live in a city where I can make new friends and build a new social circle. And a big city too.

Any suggestions if both these metro areas are horribly unfriendly?

"I (F18) am from a small town where 18 wheelers are very common as well as 18 wheeler etiquette. The two big rules are to never upset a truck driver off and to never be in the inner lane while they are turning. I was at a pretty major intersection in the city where I recently moved and stopped in the lane to the left to allow the truck (who was in the right hand turn lane) to make a left hand turn across the intersection and prevent myself from getting hit. While doing so, a white jeep started honking at me. After the turn was completed and I had finished turning, a car behind the truck got in front of me so I sped up to catch up with the flow of traffic after they safely got over. The jeep did not enjoy this and tried cutting me off. After realizing they couldn't fit into the gap, they slowed down and tailgated me. Once in the clear, they passed me then proceeded to cut me off and brake check me. When they passed me, I kind of had my arm out in a "What are you doing? Why are you mad at me" manner. After brake checking me, they got back into the right hand lane and proceeded to speed off."

Does this happen in the Phoenix Area? I feel like nobody has experienced this driving in the Valley and that drivers are so kind in Phoenix-Scottsdale-Mesa.

Friendliest (Great community, both nice and kind or just nice in general, lots of community and down to earth people) to least friendliest (Very rude, mean, unkind, not nice, no community):

Phoenix, AZ

Tucson, AZ

El Paso, TX

Las Vegas, NV

Palm Springs, CA

Albuquerque, NM

Midland-Odessa, TX

These are all desert cities with brown land and not super green. Which one has the friendliest people and the least friendliest in order?

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I don't understand it. And the same question can be asked for Lyft Riders too in Arizona. Just Arizona riders in general seem like such assholes, mostly in the Phoenix area. Some bad experiences I had while driving for Uber/Lyft were:

\-Being reported for reckless so many times and I actually believe some riders did this to get their money back. Though I will admit once I was reckless but because my supervisor sent me a text to get to the office immediately and I got nervous. But another time and the last time was for no reason though, and that got me permanently banned from Uber, but still drove for Lyft. I think I am eligible to reapply for Uber now since it's been 7 years, but I probably won't because I have PTSD from being a driver in general.

\-One rider shared feedback that I was being too social and the feedback said that some riders want a quiet ride, though I did kind talk a bit too much, I got the message after around maybe 3 short responses that the rider wanted a quiet ride. In other states, drivers socialize.

\-Overall feedback was always so low, one rider in Tucson commented, "this dude was weird." Back when Lyft had comments you can read.

\-Some riders shouting commands at me and shouting directions.

\-One rider said my music was atrocious and awful.

\-Riders leaving trash in my car.

\-One instance a group of Scottsdale Greek Life college guys and girls came in my car and left my door open in the middle of the street and had to go down and close it. Thankfully only one car was waiting.

\-If I couldn't make a suicide left turn, not all but a few riders said I was going the wrong way and gave me a low rating for not following the GPS when the street was so busy and a long line of cars was waiting for me to turn left.

\-Once a rider said she needed a ride back to her home and paid me $5 in cash. I just took her because I didn't want any problems.

\-One instance at Sky Harbor Airport, I ended up on the other side of Terminal 4, and usually the passengers would be fine walking to that side, but this lady was rude AF and wanted me to go to her side, and had to make an entire loop and turnaround and took 15 extra minutes. Then her husband said to me, "unbelievable." I just ignored it and took them to their destination.

\-Hardly any tips, though one guy was cool and gave me a $50 bill once, most riders didn't tip.

I can go on and on. The nice and kind riders I had always were visiting from out of town and always noticed how people from other states and cities act so much more polite and were so much nicer. The California visitors were some of my favorite riders as well as visitors from Texas and the Midwest. Even the visitors from the east coast were way more social and more polite.

Anyone else have similar experiences driving for rideshare in Arizona?

I can't stand up for myself and its going to lead to my termination eventually.

So i may end up choosing the Chicago area. To me it looks like Gary may be part of it and might be affordable for someone like me who is too kind and nice with a great personality. I want to work at Chicago O'Hare Airport. It's probably not too bad of a commute either.

How is Gary like? It even looks like it has its own airport too.

Im about to get fired from my job in America and am potentially on the brinks of homelessness or deportation back to El Paso which is a suburb of Ciudad Juarez de Chihuahua.

Can I get a visa? I have a US passport already. I just dont have independent status.