u/Dsg1695

Maybe for some it is, while that’s not the case for everyone. 31F and I’ve had my share of body image issues, so I question my overall attractiveness. However, I’ve had people tell me: I’m single by choice, picky, don’t really know what I want etc. I have some pretty bad social anxiety (getting medicated again for the first time in years) so my only way of meeting guys are on the dating apps. Lack of attention isn’t an issue for most women, yet I’ve had more bad than good experiences. Ghosting, fizzling out, bad conversationalists, gross messages etc. There were times in the past where I only expected the worst and maybe was going through one of my “eff it” moods, where I wouldn’t give the guys an opportunity to meet in the first place. It’s like I’m apathetic about dating, only expect disappointment but feel conflicted when I see people my age happily coupled up on social media. I know I’m physically attracted to guys but there’s this disconnect. I’ve never been boy crazy and still don’t have that urge to be intimate or sexual in any capacity, does it take the right person to spark that? Or am I overthinking everything?

Maybe for some it is, while that’s not the case for everyone. 31F and I’ve had my share of body image issues, so I question my overall attractiveness. However, I’ve had people tell me: I’m single by choice, picky, don’t really know what I want etc. I have some pretty bad social anxiety (getting medicated again for the first time in years) so my only way of meeting guys are on the dating apps. Lack of attention isn’t an issue for most women, yet I’ve had more bad than good experiences. Ghosting, fizzling out, bad conversationalists, gross messages etc. There were times in the past where I only expected the worst and maybe was going through one of my “eff it” moods, where I wouldn’t give the guys an opportunity to meet in the first place. It’s like I’m apathetic about dating, only expect disappointment but feel conflicted when I see people my age happily coupled up on social media. I know I’m physically attracted to guys but there’s this disconnect. I’ve never been boy crazy and still don’t have that urge to be intimate or sexual in any capacity, does it take the right person to spark that? Or am I overthinking everything?

Maybe for some it is, while that’s not the case for everyone. 31F and I’ve had my share of body image issues, so I question my overall attractiveness. However, I’ve had people tell me: I’m single by choice, picky, don’t really know what I want etc. I have some pretty bad social anxiety (getting medicated again for the first time in years) so my only way of meeting guys are on the dating apps. Lack of attention isn’t an issue for most women, yet I’ve had more bad than good experiences. Ghosting, fizzling out, bad conversationalists, gross messages etc. There were times in the past where I only expected the worst and maybe was going through one of my “eff it” moods, where I wouldn’t give the guys an opportunity to meet in the first place. It’s like I’m apathetic about dating, only expect disappointment but feel conflicted when I see people my age happily coupled up on social media. I know I’m physically attracted to guys but there’s this disconnect. I’ve never been boy crazy and still don’t have that urge to be intimate or sexual in any capacity, does it take the right person to spark that? Or am I overthinking everything?

31F and I know sex drive for a lot of people can be spontaneous, it’s automatic and relationship status isn’t a factor. But the kind of responsive desire that needs safety, emotional connection etc…can a suitable partner take someone’s sex drive from 0 to 100? It’s generalized that a lot of women fall under that umbrella of needing a strong connection to want to be sexually active, but what if the woman isn’t sexual in the first place? My mother always says the right person changes everything and while that can be true, it sounds too Disney. Am I being naive to assume that’s somewhat cliche? Id like to think their sex drive was always present and now they just have someone they’re comfortable enough to have sex with. Asking for a friend…that might or might not be on the asexual spectrum.

31F and I know sex drive for a lot of people can be spontaneous, it’s automatic and relationship status isn’t a factor. But the kind of responsive desire that needs safety, emotional connection etc…can a suitable partner take someone’s sex drive from 0 to 100? It’s generalized that a lot of women fall under that umbrella of needing a strong connection to want to be sexually active, but what if the woman isn’t sexual in the first place? My mother always says the right person changes everything and while that can be true, it sounds too Disney. Am I being naive to assume that’s somewhat cliche? Id like to think their sex drive was always present and now they just have someone they’re comfortable enough to have sex with. Asking for a friend…that might or might not be on the asexual spectrum.

31F and I hate to ask this, as I should be old enough to answer my own question. When I say dating, I mean those people that are actually seeking a romantic relationship, not just hook-ups. When you’re getting to know someone, is the urge to mess around driving people to want to date in the first place? Aka horniness? I just want to get straight to the point lol…I’m very introverted and never really have the desire to be sexually active. Maybe it takes the right person, I know a lot of women need that emotional connection and want to feel safe with someone before being intimate. I know people date to find their person but how much of it is hormones versus companionship?

When I say fresh start, I mean the option it gives when you want to delete your account & instead it offers the fresh start. Which is supposed to reset the algorithm & when I did this in the past, every guy that I swiped left on would show up again under “likes you”. So assuming they didn’t delete their account or block you, why wouldn’t certain people show up? Is it not automatic? Do they show your profile to these people again & then they decide if they want to like your profile for the second time?