u/Vivid_Meringue1310

Every time I’ve posted on this sub, which is a sub talking about certain things people dislike about reddit, there’s always a few people in my comments trying to make me feel like shit. Invalidating me, being rude, calling me names, etc. like why are they on here? If they don’t like the post why not just scroll? It’s like they’re incapable of just scrolling and they just have to be a bully for no reason. The reason I post on here is to vent about issues on reddit, not to be judged by annoying people. I don’t get it, leave me alone

I don’t necessarily hate downvotes/upvotes, I just hate how 90% of reddit uses them. I’d much prefer to have a discussion with someone about what we don’t agree with, and maybe we can come to a conclusion. But instead, people will downvote and go and I find that really annoying. And if you ask why people have downvoted you, you’ll get even more downvotes. This is irritating as hell to me, like why can’t people ask what they’ve done wrong? If it’s something obvious, then I can understand the frustration. But for someone like me who often struggles to know what I said wrong (I’m diagnosed autistic) it would be helpful if people could just tell me instead of just downvoting. But it is social media, and many people on social media are rude.

I also don’t like how people will use the downvote button as a “disagree” button. This is why I prefer social medias like Instagram, where there’s no downvoting. For example if I say a movie I really like and I get downvoted, I find that annoying because I didn’t say anything wrong or hurtful, it’s just my opinion. To me, downvoting should only be used when someone says something racist, sexist, homophobic, ableist, etc, or just mean in general. But 90% of Reddit is annoying with the downvote feature so I lowkey think it would be better with it gone. I know this is a very unpopular opinion so I’m expecting lots of downvotes here, but for those who comment I’m ofc open to having a conversation

I’m so tired of wasting money trying to find bras that fit me. Going from one size to another hoping it’ll fit. Yes I have taken the quiz on r/abrathatfits, but I don’t want to waste money again so I’m lowkey scared to start buying again.

The quiz told me I’m 36H (US size, that is 36FF in UK sizing) but I have no idea where to find that. I’m scared to order online because I don’t want it to end up being the wrong size, then I have to try returning it. Idk what to do

Obviously there are some men out there that are actually very lonely and struggle with making/maintaining friends. But most times when I see ppl talking about the male loneliness epidemic, it’s incel men complaining how they’ve never had sex and how women won’t go out with them, as if they’re entitled to a woman’s body. They never think about having platonic friendships with women, or even with other guys. Everything is about sex.

The most annoying part is that I relate a lot to being lonely, I’ve struggled my whole 22 years with deep loneliness, making friends, feeling disconnected from others, etc. But whenever I try to empathize with these men, they tell me that I don’t actually understand, that “male loneliness” is worse than “female loneliness”, that women always get hit on so we actually can’t be lonely, etc. No, I don’t always get hit on, I actually have never been hit on irl, because I am an ugly person.

So now I can’t even try to relate to these men and empathize with them, because they always make themselves the victim and ignore that I (and other women) can struggle with loneliness too. I hate these type of men so much. I don’t care about their “loneliness” one bit, they deserve it all and more.

People are assholes on this app and will downvote anything. I got downvoted for venting about my abusive and toxic parents, on a venting subreddit. And got told very rudely to just get over it already. This app is lowkey trash and the only reason I’m still here is for my hobby subreddits (crocheting, knitting, makeup, etc). People on here generally don’t like someone talking about their feelings, they see it as a “pity party” or whatever, and it’s really annoying, especially when I’m on a vent subreddit. If I was venting in a place I’m not supposed to be venting, I can obviously see how that would be annoying. But that wasn’t the case. Worst part is, when I looked at that persons post history they were claiming to be a “Christian”, what a lovely Christian lmao

I’m talking about stuff I see on Etsy, Pinterest, Instagram, Facebook, and even Reddit. For example someone will crochet a sweater, which is perfectly fine. But then they’ll use the bulkiest yarn, or a stitch like treble crochet where the sweater is basically see through. Or they’ll pair together colours like bright orange and neon green, in my head I wonder do they believe this looks good? Or they’ll try to do “freeform crochet” which I know can look good but then other times it’s like too freeform if you know what I mean lmao.

I feel bad for just shitting on people’s expression of art but I guess what’s what this sub is for. I personally have crocheted couple sweaters, a couple cardigans, and a few shirts, but I absolutely hate how my first sweater looks and I’m definitely going to redo it. So maybe these people are just inexperienced but still want to post their work, which is ok. I just feel like all this stuff gives crochet a bad reputation, because this is what people think of now when they think of of crocheted clothing. Crochet clothes can still look good imo, you just have to use the right stitches and use colours that compliment each other. This is just my opinion don’t come for me pls

Tw: abuse

Every time I hear that same excuse, “I was rude to you because I was going through a hard time”, in my head I don’t give a shit. I know it’s insensitive but I don’t care at all. Like my parents for example
were abusive, but always use the “well my parents treated me bad and I’ve had a hard life” explanation. I don’t care. If you’re not mentally ready to have kids then don’t do it.

I know many people say that we should offer kindness and compassion to these parents, because it’s their first time parenting. While I understand that, having a kid is a big thing and you can’t just pretend that your children don’t have feelings. So many of these parents (including mine) don’t take accountability. I’ve gone through a lot of shit in my life and I’ve never taken it out on others, even before I started getting therapy. I think before I speak (probably too much) and I’m really overly conscious about hurting others, kinda in an obsessive way. Anyways I just think that whole excuse is stupid and I don’t care, and I know I will get downvoted. I’m posting this here because everyone around me has told me the exact opposite, that it is a valid excuse and that I should help my parents heal. No, that’s not my responsibility while I’m trying to heal too

Some I really like are:

Phinehas

Olivia Rodrigo

Soundgarden

Seether

Cryptopsy

Sundazer

Guilt Trip

Stone Temple Pilots

Foo Fighters

Sleep Theory

Men I Trust

Shadow of Intent

Analepsy

Abated Mass of Flesh

Sevendust

Daedric

As Everything Unfolds

Amira Elfeky

LEXX

Cassyette

Dying Wish

Jinjer

Zeal and Ardor

As a kid/teen I grew up being told that black people shouldn’t listen to rock and metal, but that’s primarily what I listen to now. Also grew up in a religious family, so there was the whole “metal is evil” thing. I listen to a lot of different genres, but I want to check out R&B more since I don’t listen to it that much. I’m curious to hear what artists you guys like, and sorry this was so long lol I got carried away

Some I really like are:

Phinehas

Olivia Rodrigo

Soundgarden

Seether

Cryptopsy

Sundazer

Guilt Trip

Stone Temple Pilots

Foo Fighters

Sleep Theory

Men I Trust

Shadow of Intent

Analepsy

Abated Mass of Flesh

Sevendust

Daedric

As Everything Unfolds

Amira Elfeky

LEXX

Cassyette

Dying Wish

Jinjer

Zeal and Ardor

Ik it’s a lot and there’s more but I didn’t want to list all of them. I listen to a lot of different genres, but I want to check out R&B more since I don’t listen to it that much. I’m curious to hear what artists you guys like

I tried to make this post short so that it’s not a really long post but I kinda struggled sorry. Basically, I’ve struggled with my mental health almost all my life. My dad was abusive, then my mom and I left him and then my mom became emotionally abusive. I started feeling suicidal when I was around 12. I’ve had anxiety since I was a kid and I’ve been biting my nails since I was like 7. Depression started when I was around 12/13. I was always good in school though, up until grade 12 in 2020 when my mental health got way worse. depression, anxiety, ocd, I also was diagnosed with bpd last year, as well as autism.

My family is also really Christian and I became obsessed with the idea of being the perfect Christian. I was in like a spiritual psychosis in 2020/2021 and the only thing that mattered to me was religion, so my grades went down and I almost didn’t get into university. I still was able to get in though and I started in 2021. I used to want to be a doctor, I was so excited to study biochemistry in university, but I just couldn’t do it, I couldn’t focus on the schoolwork and I couldn’t memorize all the info so I switched to computer science in 2024 but I’m still doing badly in school. Everytime I study I feel like crying because my brain doesn’t work the way it used to, I used to be good in school up until grade 12. I’ve tried all the study methods and none of them work for me.

I don’t know how to get back to the old me. I wasn’t even that happy back then but I miss being able to get good grades. I also used to play guitar and piano back then, but then I stopped when my mental got worse. I know it’s a small thing, but it makes me so sad and frustrated whenever I try to play guitar and piano now, and I see how bad I am because my skills have deteriorated. I genuinely feel like my life isn’t going anywhere and I feel like I’m just kinda here, no friends, nobody to talk to about stuff, i lost all my friends when I went through that whole spiritual psychosis thing. I feel like I’m just barely surviving in life, not actually thriving and enjoying life. I pretend to be happy but I’m not

I’ve used the calculator on r/abrathatfits multiple times. The first couple times I got 36H, then more recently I got 36H/I, and the sister sizes 34I/J. I can’t find any stores in my city that carry those sizes, and I’m worried about ordering online because I hate the hassle of having to return it if it doesn’t fit me.

Idk what to do, do I just order online and trust that the size the calculator gave me is correct? I know I have big boobs but 36H seems humongous to me, maybe I’m just struggling to see my body clearly though