u/Lemonade2250

I want to help my brother become independent and reliable on his own because I just feel like if I continue doing everything for him from chores to speaking behalf of me then he will end up depending on me and feel like an incapable adult. Thing is he always needs a push and won't advocate for himself. He has the tendency to give up fast when it's challenging or confusing. He is very shy in social settings such as going to someone house or even at a store. He won't try out new clothes because he is always looking at other people thinking something as if they are staring at him. And I'm just not sure how do I make him feel free from the shyness. How you supposed to break this barrier. My aunt said you have to teach him basic life stuff simple as putting food in the plate and also washing the plate. Doing laundry. But I want to help him figure out career path like how you supposed to do that if he is interested in computers since there are many jobs in tech related fields. From designing to video games or programming.

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I just feel deep down it's my fears and past failures that I keep holding onto that has kept me the same version of myself for years and years. Even time to time, I keep telling myself lying has not gotten you anywhere but only has made life miserable.. because for many time now I've lied to others yeah I finally learned driving. Yeah I finally have a proper job. Yeah I finally finished college when in reality I have not achieved none of those goals. But for the sake of judgement and critism, I lied but it makes me so miserable and I somewhat hate it that I lie. I don't know when I'll ever experience true happiness and fulfillment or confidence that I'm starving to get. Stupid fears and failures of past has kept me stuck and unable to take actions.

I just feel deep down it's my fears and past failures that I keep holding onto that has kept me the same version of myself for years and years. Even time to time, I keep telling myself lying has not gotten you anywhere but only has made life miserable.. because for many time now I've lied to others yeah I finally learned driving. Yeah I finally have a proper job. Yeah I finally finished college when in reality I have not achieved none of those goals. But for the sake of judgement and critism, I lied but it makes me so miserable and I somewhat hate it that I lie. I don't know when I'll ever experience true happiness and fulfillment or confidence that I'm starving to get. Stupid fears and failures of past has kept me stuck and unable to take actions.

I don't know how to make omelette for lunch. I just have few burger buns and I thought I can make some recipe with eggs. But I never learned the basics

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I started working in healthcare and I see all type of people from 40-50s to 80 and up. And like I see some people in 40-50s they feel old and as if their body has lost mobility but then there people in 70-80s who look young and mentally sharp. They are able to jog and do small activities. And it just makes me wonder how much perspective about yourself means in life.

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I just tell myself like who cares at the end. Even this world cup will end in few weeks yet people are making content and videos about win and loss. People get so invested in temporary things that don't matter in long run. New things pop everyday and sometimes it feels overwhelming and somewhat distracting how social media creates this feeling of fomo or attachments as if it's important to keeping yourself updated about things that doesn't impact our life but somehow we feel it's important and we forget to prioritize what is important and not.

I always felt frustrated that I couldn't buy jeans from any store my size. The waist was fine but the length always gave me problems. It was just too long and I ended up looking like a mess. I always wanted to hem the pants but it's crazy that just few stitching or tailoring is so expensive. Just for one pant one local tailor said $12 just for hem. And I just really wished I could have learned this skill at home.

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I really want to learn about tech and I heard that I.t. is a good start but umm since the tech field in general is so broad and I guess there must be non tech jobs too and I always wondered if short courses or in demand skills could help in finding job opportunity.

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I really want to learn about tech and I heard that I.t. is a good start but umm since the tech field in general is so broad and I guess there must be non tech jobs too and I always wondered if short courses or in demand skills could help in finding job opportunity.

I really want to learn about tech and I heard that I.t. is a good start but umm since the tech field in general is so broad and I guess there must be non tech jobs too and I always wondered if short courses or in demand skills could help in finding job opportunity.

Is it true that people who grew up with money and good life usually aren't motivated to make money but those who sacrificed and had to chase after money naturally became hustlers to settle their life. From pursuing education to opening a business and just working their way up?

I have all the resources but lack the resilency or bravery from within me that I continue self sobotaging and procrastinating. No wonder why I feel overwhelmed by life and feel soft, dull, naive and mentally weak.

They say simple things that sound dumb or agreeable but in long term it's those simple things that define your life. They say be positive, love yourself, work hard, have good attitude and intentions or mindset, have some discipline systems, never give up. At first I thought its whatever like I've been hearing this my whole life yet chose to ignore but this simple saying and systems is what has craved a path to success for majority of people. It has made them strong in every ways. It has build their financial system. Lead them to success. Gosh I wish I can implement this in my life. I'm already 30

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I don't know why but I just feel like people in public settings quickly judge or form a judgment of someone in matter of seconds whether that person is nice or a threat. From weak posture or strong posture. From confident voice or shallow anxious type. Is it really really true that looks and how you dress matter even though society may say just simply be yourself. Like in a room full of people I guess such things like personality, attitude and so much more matters huh?

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I don't know why but I just feel like people in public settings quickly judge or form a judgment of someone in matter of seconds whether that person is nice or a threat. From weak posture or strong posture. From confident voice or shallow anxious type. Is it really really true that looks and how you dress matter even though society may say just simply be yourself. Like in a room full of people I guess such things like personality, attitude and so much more matters huh?

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I feel afraid or resistance to seek help even though I do want to ask for advice. I fear judgment or something like don't want to hear the bitter truth so I avoid this feelings of confrontation. And I noticed when I don't put effort and don't go out my way to ask for help then my life remains the same and I just continue living in this mindset for years and years. No sign of growth and progression.

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I feel afraid or resistance to seek help even though I do want to ask for advice. I fear judgment or something like don't want to hear the bitter truth so I avoid this feelings of confrontation. And I noticed when I don't put effort and don't go out my way to ask for help then my life remains the same and I just continue living in this mindset for years and years. No sign of growth and progression.

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I feel afraid or resistance to seek help even though I do want to ask for advice. I fear judgment or something like don't want to hear the bitter truth so I avoid this feelings of confrontation. And I noticed when I don't put effort and don't go out my way to ask for help then my life remains the same and I just continue living in this mindset for years and years. No sign of growth and progression.

I feel afraid or resistance to seek help even though I do want to ask for advice. I fear judgment or something like don't want to hear the bitter truth so I avoid this feelings of confrontation. And I noticed when I don't put effort and don't go out my way to ask for help then my life remains the same and I just continue living in this mindset for years and years. No sign of growth and progression.